Guru of Gape Goes Deep

I never enjoyed depth play, so the purchase of a 19-inch insertable toy called the Edgware from John Thomas Toys seemed a bit out of character for me.

One of the most common questions I get from fans on X is how to take longer toys. Had you asked me five years ago, I would have brushed off the question as a self-proclaimed girth queen. Nonetheless, there came a moment when I realized that wider toys were also necessarily taller. I could no longer ignore one skill at the other's expense.

Depth play is another game altogether; I warn readers that it can go terribly wrong, and that caution should always be taken when discovering the deep abyss of your body.

No matter what the question, the answer almost always boils down to "practice, practice, practice," and making sure there's lots of lube on hand. That said, I learned a number of lessons in my deep exploration of my anus that may make your journey a bit easier. The first is the importance of learning your anatomy. 

It's no secret how food exits the body after digestion. Good depth play depends on how well you understand the physiology of your body. For a relatively-experienced bottom, taking a toy through the anal sphincters and into the rectum is rather easy. To continue on, a toy must enter the sigmoid colon and, for still deeper play, up the descending colon (though at this point, you're entering be careful territory).

A sphincter-like group of muscles between the sigmoid and the rectum control continence, waiting until enough water has been absorbed by the colon to send stool into the rectum. When you're playing with longer toys, you need to gently convince those muscles to let you pass in the opposite direction.

The mistake I made—and which I've seen others make—is trying to take the same wide toys your anus/rectum can handle into the sigmoid colon. Without coaxing and sufficiently relaxing, it's a recipe for disaster. That's why the game has to change: the best way to train your body to accept objects traveling in this direction and to get used to you calling the shots instead of involuntary muscle movements is by specially-designed toys. These toys are ideally long, soft, and flexible, all of which are vital for getting past the sigmoid curve. Personally, I began with the Spike 105 from Topped Toys and a Large Slink by SquarePegToys. Both of these toys fit the bill and I knew that the girth wouldn't pose a problem, letting me concentrate on safely explore my depth.

Once you've acquired the right gear, it's time to master your body's cues.

1. Lay on your left side or otherwise guide the toy to the left, which is where the sigmoid colon curves.
2. Learn to breathe and relax as the toy opens you up to new levels.
3. Listen to your gut when it says to stop: discomfort is normal, pain is not.

What's the deepest you've ever gone?

Disclaimer: The above content should not be construed as medical advice. I'm writing as an experienced anal connoisseur and caution all readers to learn as much as they can about how to safely enjoy extreme anal play. Be responsible to your body and its current limitations.